Experiment how to try these top 5 most common fetishes in a safe way - how to ask your partner to experiment with you.
There are as many fetishes as people in the world. Believe it or not, almost every object can be turned into a fetish by someone. There are fetish related to size, height, weight, location, domination, submission, masochisms, specific body parts and even the sun and the weather. But today we will talk about the most common fetishes and how to share them with your partner in a safe way.
First of all, no matter what sexual experience you want to live, it MUST be consent, this means you both have to be ok with it. That is the top recommendation and the one you must keep in mind when you desire to make a fantasy fetish come true.
Having this in mind let’s see what are the top 5 most common fetishes people would like to experience:
Voyeurism and exhibitionism:
Voyeurism implies to enjoy and feel pleasure from seeing other people getting undressed, naked or having sex. This practice does not need the “viewer” to participate in the scene. It is enough with being able to see it. There are voyeurism activities that even involve cuckolding which means seeing the sexual partner having sex with a different person, and the viewer just sees the scene. This is similar to spy people in private situations.
On the other hand exhibitionism has to do with the desire of being seen by others. The exhibitionist enjoys showing themselves in public places. You must be careful with these two because in most places if you are caught it may be considered an offence, so if you want to live it with your partner it is important to identify the proper conditions.
Role plays and costumes:
The role play fetish and wearing costumes fetish is a very interesting practice that can b included in the bedroom. It is quite nice to be able to perform and role play different characters play to be a sexy teacher, a nurse, a doctor, a maid, a police or even a thief are some of the most common characters to be played. Some people may prefer characters from their favorites movies, comics or TV series, doesn’t matter what role you want to play, what matters is the confidence with which you play the role you have decided to please yourself and your partner. These fantasies can be done at home or in a special date in a hotel. Remember keeping a good sexual life and spicing it a little go hand in hand, so allow yourself to include these options in your dynamic with your couple.
Podophilia of feet fetish: This fetish is related to feet. There are some people who really enjoy worshiping feet. There are many aspects of it: kissing, liking, sucking feet are some of the practices done in this fetish. Some other like and enjoy shoes, heels and boots, and some other enjoy to be trampled. As in all aspects of sexuality preferences are different for each and it depends on what causes pleasure to the couple.
Anal sex: This fantasy is really valuated because it involves the sense of forbidden. Many men and women are very curious about it. This practice must be done with some precautions like a previous internal cleaning from the area, the proper stimulation and lubrication, between others. This fetish is also related to body parts fetish, and one if them is the fetish related to the butt. This practice may lead you to experience a new way to reach orgasms but keeping in mind that little extra preparation to reach pleasure instead of pain or a bad experience.
Submission and domination:
This sexual practice is one of the most common practices. It allows the couples to change roles, to give away control. The dominant has the power on the situation, and the submissive is there so give all control to his/her dominant. There are light practices in the BDSM spectrum like light spanking, soft bondage and little servitude. But there are some others that are more hardcore, like slavery, giving or receiving electric shock in the body or choking. When you and your partner are looking for this experience you must decide a “Safe Word” this word is a term decided to stop action when it overcomes the limits of one of the participants, this will help make the experience pleasant and discover the limits but without taking it beyond bearable limits.
In this fetish there may be involved elements and accessories to keep it more interesting or to complement the fantasy, some of these are leather and latex clothing, wristbands, anklets and even whips.
When you want to have these new experiences share them with your partner and take advantage of them to get out of the routine. To ask for it in the best way here are some tips you can keep in mind:
Be confident: It is important to believe what you want to propose. When he/she sees a positive attitude will be great and it will show that it is something that you really want to do with him/her.
For girls, take the lead: When was the last time you started to tease and play? Sometimes some women have the "wrong idea" that man should always be the one who initiates things. This may be a bit boring! You can be the one who seduces him and look for him to propose something new.
Type of questions: It is important to know how to ask the questions, look for those that invite your partner to feel comfortable and make a decision: Would you like us to try this costume for a sexy night? Do you like to be caressed in this way, or do you prefer that we try a different kind of caresses? Would you like to try a new sexual game?
Reveal your own information: One way to address difficult issues could be revealing your own information. If you start with yourself, there is less resistance from the other person. The opening of a person requires giving and receiving. Studies indicate that when someone speaks openly of their own feelings their partner is willing to do the same.
Make requests: We cannot read minds! However, many couples seem to think that their partner knows (perhaps by intuition) what they need. Be clear and direct. Expecting the couple to know what we want without telling them means putting too much weight on them.
Be specific, the more specific a request is, the more likely it is to be understood and addressed.
Choose the moment; the right place is important to avoid attacking your partner. Try to choose a time when both have time, feel relaxed and are very close to each other.
Remember you can have an active and healthy sexual life, share with your partner fantasies and fetish you want to experience just make sure you both feel comfortable with it.