How are to ask your partner to have a baby?
There are too many aspects you must think of before deciding to have a baby, and many others before asking your partner to live the parenthood experience with you.
There is not a particular order to study the options but there are some more important aspects than others, here you will find the ones that outstand the most:
First, think the reason why you want to become a parent, are you really ready for it?
Most women can't and will not deny each time they see a baby or a pregnant woman there is something inside them that wakes up the desire of having a baby. Please don't feel bad about it. This is completely natural and Mother Nature gave us this reaction because if we wouldn't had it, as specie we may no longer exists.
Having this said, try to make a conscious exercise, in where you deeply analyze if you alone are ready to have a baby? Can you face it without any additional help? I mean both, as a man or as a woman that wants to become a parent, can you be a single parent if live takes you on that direction?
What we all want is to give our baby; the best live possible, and that usually starts from giving him/her a family. In this case you have to evaluate how is your situation with your partner, how long have you been together? What you both want? Are you in the correct professional and economic moment?
Why should you consider these questions, because even a couple may think they are ready, life and the process my take them in opposite directions.
Having this in mind if you feel the conditions are optimal in what refers to personal, professional development and the relationship moment you may proceed to ask. But before doing it when I think about the relationship moment, I mean, are you a couple who has been together for a long time? Or have you being together for a short period? The deal is that it may feel weird to ask someone to have a baby with you if you just met.
In any case if you want to know if your partner wants to have a baby, you can start using situations around you, why? You can see how does your partner react around kids, is he/she comfortable? Annoyed? Does he/she reject the idea? Or does he/she like to be around and play with them? If the answer is yes, this still does not represent a warranty he/she is ready to have a baby. Some people like to share with kids from their relatives or their friend’s kids, but they may not be ready to have their own.
Parenting may be awesome, but it is also extremely challenging physically, emotionally and economically. In all stages a child needs attention, physical, emotional and economical attention are you as a person ready to provide it? Are you as a couple ready too? And the hardest, you may never be sure if you are doing it right.
Please try to identify your own reasons to have a baby; do you feel you are ready to raise a family with the responsibilities it involves? Or do you feel time is running out? And Mother Nature is telling you: you need a baby.
Any way, you may also need to be healthy and quit any prejudicial habits.
Having this in mind there are many options when it comes to ask your partner to have a baby, these are some of them:
Use a similar event to bring the topic to the table: if you see a baby on the neighborhood, on the news or a friends’ baby, you may start talking about it and saying how would you like your baby to be like this and that.
Mention a friend or a coworker has just got pregnant and start from it. This will help you identify his reaction.
Plan a special conversation about it. Having some time alone, bring the conversation naturally.
Take him/her by surprise and be direct about it. This may be done early in the morning when you just woke up or in a moment where you are both alone and said it. There are phrases as elaborated as “I think we are ready to start our family and have a baby or as simple as “I want a baby” in any case the idea is to call his attention to the topic.
Remember this conversation have to be done in the best conditions, when you had a fight, or if you have had the worst day at work is not the best moment to talk about it.
If your partner says yes, that is it; you can create a specific time to try to make it happen.
If your partner says he/she is not ready, you have to consider his/her feelings too, and discuss some options, can you discuss it in a few months? Can you together identify what are the worries that stops him/her from wanting a baby right now? Think on how you can work them out without making it a problem.
If you feel really urged, try to experience a little the role by taking care of your friends babies, or your family`s babies. Babysitting will give you an idea how you feel around babies and if you do it together will help you know how you both react on it.
Parenthood is a wonderful experience but to live it the fullest you both have to be as ready as possible, because you will need all your strength and desire to do it as best as possible and to create a nice healthy environment for your child to grow in. When things are meant to happen they will flow easily and you both will be able to overcome every situation that is related to the wonderful and tough world of paternity.