How should the big O feel? Are you reaching your full potential?
The brain is one of the most powerful organs when talking about the sexual encounters, but usually, more in women than in men, sex itself is not only related to the physical stimulation, emotions play a relevant role in the act. When someone has too many negative thoughts related to sexual performance when he/she is under the bed sheets, this thoughts create some of the mental barriers that stops them from reaching that extremely desired climax. The orgasm by itself is one of the sensations that in both men and women, is reached under the stimulation of different erogenous areas in the body that varies in each person.
If you want to know how it works for most, recent studies show that from 2,300 women: 57% of women say they reach orgasm every time they have sexual relations with their partner; 38% said they did not achieve orgasm due to lack of stimulation in the clitoris; 32% did not reach it because they were focused on their own thoughts and physical appearance; 67% said they faked an orgasm; 45% did it so to avoid hurting their partner's feelings, and they wanted to end the sexual encounter as soon as possible, and finally 39% achieved most of their orgasms by masturbating with their fingers or with a toy.
How does the female orgasm feel?
The female vaginal orgasm lasts between 5 and 10 seconds approximately, the orgasm in the women initially depends on the vagina and the clitoris reaction. This causes the vaginal walls to contract, physiologically taking in the penis while the vaginal orgasm increases. This throbbing sensation next to the vaginal pulsations due to the accumulation of concentrated blood in the clitoris is a physical key point, and the success on it depends largely on the position in which the female is. Sixty-four percent of the women surveyed said that the most intense orgasms they had felt involved simultaneous stimulation on the vagina and the clitoris.
The climax has a point of inflection where, there is liquid shoot out of the vulva at the moment of orgasm, this is called vaginal ejaculation. Many women express feeling ashamed and anxious, since they have never experienced a similar experience before.
There are divided thoughts in the public in general about the link between the female orgasm and the vaginal ejaculation that is because, some may think that if there is no ejaculation there was not any an orgasm, but scientists from the L'Alquila University in Italy showed that the fluid can be very little or it goes back to the bladder. The orgasm may or may not be accompanied by this vaginal discharge, so keep in mind the vaginal ejaculation may be the exception and not the rule.
How does male orgasm feel?
The male orgasm lays its pleasure in the stimulation of the male member, associated with other erogenous zones of man such as the testicles, neck, back, and thighs. When the physical or visual stimulation is received and a man has sexual arousal, there comes a sensation of tension in the testicles; it causes the perineum to harden producing a deep sensation of well-being. Many men say there is a sensation of levitation that lasts a few seconds, accompanied by imminent desires to ejaculate. Physically, the penis reaches the moment of maximum excitement where the testicles become congested and the glands are filled with blood and fluid. This fluid remains at the end of the urethra as the arrival of the orgasm comes. After climax most men feel a positive state of mind and also the desire to rest.
Now, in the male orgasm, the point “R”, or point of no return, becomes important as it is the exact moment where he needs to ejaculate. When a man get to this point if he wants to last longer for his own pleasure and the pleasure of his partner, it comes in, the self-control game to delay ejaculation in order to enjoy orgasm. Experts in the field advise that knowing their erogenous zones very well, through masturbation, combined with a deep and slow breathing when the first impulses begin, may allow them to prolong sexual intercourse longer, in this way they may get to enjoy more of the sexual encounter and of the orgasm making both deeper and pleasant.
In both cases it is important to:
Stop thinking just in sexual performance; Enjoying the moment with your partner is what really matters.
Know your body; you both men and women need to know how to stimulate your bodies and what position, erogenous zone, caress, or even word, works best for you. If you know first yourself, and then your partner, it will be easier and better for you to live the best your sexual life.
Feel confident; leave aside all negative thoughts or worries when you are in bed. This time is for the two of you, so leave work, school, family or that muffing top that bothers you out of the bedroom, and focus on that moment.
You shouldn’t deny yourself this climax experience, if you haven’t lived it fully, don’t get frustrated be honest; keep practicing and learning about yourself is the best way to improve it and enjoy your sexual life.