Swinging has become a lot more prevalent among people of all ages over the past couple of decades. Swinging generally involves people in committed relationships and can be groups of 4 or more people who swap partners or take part in various other sexual situations such as voyeurism, exhibitionism, cuckold, orgies and more.
So who usually takes part in swinging? Couples who are very secure in their relationships and who want to try something different with full consent of their spouses, who will most likely be doing the same, are the people that are generally involved in the swinging set. Couples are made up of various ages, races and backgrounds and the only thing they generally have in common is a wish to explore their sexual selves and perhaps fulfill a fantasy or two.
When and where?
This can be a little more complicated to figure out. You might be lucky and stumble across another couple purely by accident who opens up to you about their needs and desires and you and your spouse fancy the couple, then you just need to arrange a where, perhaps your home or theirs when the kids are not likely to be home anytime soon. While this seems ideal, this is unlikely to happen. Another option, and perhaps a more likely one, is to join a swingers club. This takes the edge off as you already know that most of the couples there have joined for the same reasons as you have. You just have to find someone compatible with your requirements, and of course, you need to meet theirs as well. This could result in you never finding what you are after or you might have needs that no one there is interested in fulfilling, which can become a downer. You might also meet a great couple or you and your spouse pair off with people from different couples, but the other person never wants to be with you again afterwards, even if you are willing or you might end up with someone who stalks you afterwards even when you have no further interest. This could make attending future meetings a little tense as well. Sometimes it is better to join social swinger groups, where you get together with people for dinner and drinks, get to know them on a social level and then take it to the next level. This is often a much better way of judging who you click with and who is less likely to harass you after an encounter.
Why do people swing?
While some people are pushed in to it unwillingly by a partner, in most cases, people take part in swinging to enjoy sexual fantasies that they would not normally encounter in their day to day sex life. It is a chance for men and women to perhaps try out a sexual encounter with the opposite sex, try group sex or explore a fetish in a safe environment. It is recommended that everyone practice safe sex and that swinging is done with the full consent of both partners. Swinging groups often do not allow singles as this is often a recipe for disaster. The host of the swinging party or club would need to ensure that there are rules and that people remain respectful of each other. Couples that swing together should be enjoying a healthy sex life at home and swinging should be an add on to their intimacy and not a replacement for something that is missing in their relationships. People also take part in swinging to explore variety and bring back the adrenaline rush of something new, without losing their current stable relationship.
Swinging is based on trust and open communication between spouses as well as with the people you are planning a sexual encounter with. To be enjoyable and successful, everyone needs to be honest and be able to discuss their needs, fetishes and fantasies. Rules need to be set in place and adhered to and most of all, there is no need to jump right in to bed with other people. Take it slow, get to know the other people you plan to get sexual with, tease and tantalize just as you would in a normal relationship. Enjoy the lead up to the encounter as well as the actual sex.